Monday, September 26, 2016

life today

One year ago, I never thought that my life would turn out like it did. All I wanted last year was to graduate and I said to myself I’ll figure out later what I want to do. Maybe doing another social work, living as a dentist somewhere far away from the city, coming back home after two or three years and by that time I’ll know what to do: master or residency program, and maybe if I’m lucky enough I’ll get married around 27 or 28.

Today, one year after studying night and day to pass the exam, here I am studying night and day again (and also working from 8 to 3 or sometimes from 8 to 8) because right now I’m taking Oral Biology and Immunology Master Program.

I never thought that I could live the kind of life I’m having right now. I mean being a lecturer and a researcher was never on my list. I always wanted to be a dentist and being able to help people. And that was all I know.

At this stage what I can say is that everything in life was meant to be. That’s the best explanation I can come up with every time people asked me why am I giving up my dream to leave the city and being a dentist somewhere where it takes two hours for people to get to hospital or why I didn’t take residency program or why my choice was not Health Management Master Program like what I always wanted.

I know what I wanted but God knows better. God knows better than any of us.

Today, as a dentist I’m doing my best to fix someone’s smile, trying to make some pain go away, and educating people to live a better and healthier life. As a junior lecturer, I enjoy sharing all of my tiny little knowledge to undergraduate students and hoping that the little things I taught them will make them a better dentist someday. As a student, I’m having fun taking notes from my lecturers, my seniors. As a junior researcher, I’m working on little things that I hope can make an impact someday to improve other’s life.

I’m not giving up my dream. I’m living a bigger one right now.

Tuesday, May 10, 2016

respecting others

I just had a chat with a friend who right now is taking a master program that isn't in line with our previous dentistry program.

She told me how some people told her that her master program choice wasn't smart and how it was completely a mistake.

I personally don't see my friend's decision as a problem because I know she's happy with her choice but somehow I feel bad to those who still have time to judge other's choice about life.

I think everyone has the right to decide the things they want to do. It's theirs to choose what they want to be in their life. We just live once so why do we have to do something we don't want or we don't like? I think what I want to do with my life has nothing to do with you as long as I don't do harm to you and vice versa.

Everyone deserves the same chance to choose what they want in their life. Like what major they want to take in college, what they want to be after they graduate, whom they decide to get married with, when they'll get married, and even the decision whether one wants to settle down or not.

I don't have the right to tell someone that they make a wrong decision just because I have different point of view about something. I maybe will try to talk about my perspective with that person but that's all. If they change their mind it's good but if they don't, I'm fine with that. As long as they're happy, they aware of the consequence of the action, I'm completely fine.

What's wrong with choosing the least favorite major in college? What's wrong with being a housewife with a doctoral degree? Or marrying someone you just met less than a year ago? Or deciding to spend the weekend watching movies at home instead of going out until late?

My point is that everyone has the right to live their life the way they want to be.

Everyone has the right to be happy.

And if you see someone happy and you're not happy with that, please just let them be.

Live your live the way you want to be. To those people who judge other for what they do with their life, please get a life! Find something fun to do or something to be crazy about. Because the one who still have time judging other's life is likely to be the one doesn't have a life.